Here's a mirror, stop projecting!

As Oprah would say, I just had an "aha moment." People project. For those of you who have heard of this word and thought you knew what it means...here is a definition. It's a psychological defense mechanism where one projects their undesirable feelings or motives onto another. I just recently discussed this idea with a friend. I never really noticed that projecting is so overwhelmingly common. I literally thought of every person in my life and could relate some instance where this has occurred. I'm not saying that I haven't participated in it either. Mind-boggling right? But it's effective for the projector.
People disappoint me constantly, so you know they disappoint themselves. Projecting provides an outlet for one individual to force their negative feelings onto someone else. Gossip is a prime example. Another example: say someone doesn't like another person, for whatever reason. Their value system tells them they have to like them. They are a bad person if they dislike someone else. So to make them feel better, they convince themselves that the other person doesn't like them. Finally, the result of this feeling of dislike is validated.
It really just originates to insecurity. But doesn't it always?
It's really disgusting and dangerous. It results from inner anxiety and it's a way for people to feel normal, unfortunately making others feel worse. All to often, I hear stories of someone that is dating someone so miserable that it's only a matter of time until they start to believe they are the horrible individual making the other so unhappy.
I would like to take a line from a Michael Jackson hit, "Man in the Mirror" : If you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make a change. I hear that and automatically bust a move and I also think that the next time a person negatively criticizes me, I'm going to stick a mirror in their face and say good luck!
Anyways, I know this isn't a funny blog, just thought I would share. It's so interesting to me, I should've studied Psychology for sure.

You've got a cheater in your inbox.

I would like to address the underlying atrotious theme of this movie. "You've got mail"....you've got a story about a friendship originating in a chatroom that turns into an emotional connection. It's cheating folks. Plain and simple. Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks are both in relationships, living with their significant others. They are keeping their online relationship a secret. Some think this is perfectly innocent. Question: then why are they so secretive? Another question, most important of all, why the hell are they staying with the poor souls they obviously don't love. Answer: people are insecure and settle for someone just to have a warm body. It's infuriating to me. What happened to the fairytale lovestory? When does the relationship with your "partner" turn into this haze of resentment and when does it begin to feel like a mistake? I wonder. I wonder why people feel the need to go somewhere else to fill the void. Why can't they take the time to work on their current relationship, ask for advice from them, or hey guys here's a thought, how bout strengthening your relationship with God? Arg. I'm so disgusted with society. And thank you to this movie for reinforcing the innocence of emotional infidelity.